When we suffer from an illness, a traumatic event, or times of difficulty brought on by another’s suffering or a personal loss, we can feel quite powerless. It’s important to regain our sense of power so that we can move ahead with our lives and heal. If we lose our sense of power, we lose the ability and possibly even the desire to nurture ourselves. We thus hang on to the negativity, which keeps us from rediscovering and embracing the positive aspects of our lives and our selves. This in turn prevents emotional and thus physical and other forms of tangible healing. One way to regain our sense of power is to restart activities that we’ve stopped because of disruptions to our lives. While there might be a limit to this depending upon the hardship we’re facing, there is always something that we can encourage ourselves to do. Because restarting activities helps us begin piecing our lives back together, even the smallest of activities can help us regain control of our lives. There’s certainly power in possessing such control.
As Marilyn Shepperson describes in her poem “Power,” there is power in negative acts but more power in positive ones.
There is a power in taking
But more power in giving
There is a power in revenge
But more power in forgiving
There is a power in destroying
But more power in letting something live
There is a power in denying our true age
But more power in showing that we’ve lived.
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Hardship can bring us to a place where we want to lash out at others. Our sadness and anger over our situations can overwhelm us to the point that all we feel capable of giving is negativity. But nothing exists without its opposite. We wouldn’t know what good is if evil didn’t exist. We wouldn’t have a sense of what life is and what it means to be alive if there were no such thing as death. There is power in choosing how we live with and through hardships. There is more power in making the difficult choice. . .
To not give in to the sadness and anger and to therefore nurture ourselves and those around us through the hardship with acts of strength, grace, and joy.
If you feel like you have lost some or all of your power, let’s work to reclaim it. . .
Reflect on a time when you felt most powerful. Consider the following questions for your reflective writing:
- What created this sense of power?
- How did it affect you? If others were involved, how did it affect them?
- Does the experience of this situation continue to have an impact on you and/or others in your life?
- What did you learn about yourself from this situation?
- What aspects of this experience can you use now to reclaim your sense of power?
Feel free to share your power story in the comments section below!